As you all may have noticed from my short run so far, this is a question that shouldn’t have the asker feeling embarrassed or ashamed. It’s a question that a real man should ask. All real men at some point have had to re-evaluate themselves and ask if they are living up to their expectations, acting the way they should when life, family, friends, work, etc, demand more from them.
So let’s just dive into today’s topic in our series of “How to be a man”…
How to be a father:
How to be a Dad/Father/Popsi/Papa… You get the drift. In our daily lives we end up being father figures and role models to many even when we don’t expect it. People at work look up to you or even just learn from being around you, so a man should keep this in mind. Being a father is not just for those with actual kids (Although they do deserve tremendous credit), a man should be himself but also remember that his actions are noticed by those around him.
When we look at dads, I’ve seen men get called ‘Helicopter Dads’ or ‘Papa-Bon-Boy’, and most times those terms are used in jest. However if you look at it, those are dads are just doing their jobs. Paying attention to their kids and sometimes getting carried away with it.
You find some girls attached at the hip to their dads on tv and what-not, but in Nigeria, most dads go to work, come home, watch tv and pay bills. When do they get the time to teach their little boy to ride a bike? Or shower their daughter with so much love she doesn’t get swept up by the 1st guy to spoil her with gifts?
So finding the balance is never easy, especially in Naij where traffic, stress, work, etc all constantly fight for your attention. You just have to find the time. Your staff need you, your car needs you, your bank account needs you, but so does your family. Never forget that.
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