By Oluwatoyin Adeleye
It was James Allen who once said, “The more tranquil a man becomes, the greater is his success, his influence, his power for good. Calmness of mind is one of the beautiful jewels of wisdom.” But we all know this is easier said than done. Life always throws pressure and uncertainty our way as we progress and these often cause stress and worry. But we need to stay calm to forge ahead or we will all lose it. Here are tips for this:
It always helps to plan ahead. Yes, you cannot always predict what the future holds, but you can prepare ahead for what the future may bring. Have a contingency plan for what ifs and cover all loopholes from work, business or home. Then other things can be tackled as they come.
2. One step at a time:
It is quite tempting to think that by tackling all your issues at the same time, you will get them sorted faster. That’s usually not true though, because all you get is chaos. If you want to get things settled faster, take them one at a time and sort them out. Finish solving one or at least proffer solution to each issue first before moving to the next one.
3. Be Flexible:
There are some people that I refer to as ‘one way traffic’. They only know how to do things a certain way and do not bother to see if there are other ways to achieve their aims. The problem with this is that when things do not work out the way they expect them to, these people are completely disoriented and destabilised and find it hard to go on. Never stay rigid with your plans. Yes, we asked you to plan, but also prepare your mind for a possible flop here and there and be ready to tackle those too.
Not all tasks are equally important. Just as you should tackle tasks one at a time, also know the right ones to tackle first and the ones to leave for later. I’m sure you can get this done just by thinking about the deadline for each of your tasks.
5. Take a breather:
Breaks are needed in the midst of every life’s pursuit. You may be looking at your goal ahead and striving desperately to meet that target but you need to come up for air every once in a while. It helps you see things from a different, sometimes, clearer perspective.
6. Bright look:
Hey, it may feel like the weight of the world rests on your shoulders, but trust me, it doesn’t. And even if it does, you don’t have to wear the look of the weight. Be cheerful and bright about things. You may attract people who could help your situation just by a cheerful outlook. But a gloomy look, just because you are having a strenuous day, will only make people stay away from you for fear of you transferring aggression.
7. Be positive:
Now your mindset is everything. If you believe you can do it, then you can and vice versa. Don’t just say the words though, act according to them and believe them. I can do it!
The fact that that work is in your job description does not mean you must be the one to do everything. Some of us don’t like to bother other people so much, so if we tell someone to do something and they don’t, we just take it upon ourselves to do them. Here’s a little secret, if you badger people long enough to do something, they will eventually get to it. It may take extra work from you to tell them, but at least when the task is being done , you can focus on other things.
9. Seek help/support:
We all need help sometimes, so suck up your pride and ask for help. Someone may be willing to assist you or even show you and easier route to achieving your aims. Seek help.
At the completion of each task, take a moment to celebrate your achievement. Sometimes we are afraid that if we celebrate, we may jinx the other work and never finish it or we may just relax and forget about other tasks, but this is only dependent on your level of discipline. Go out and grab a drink, give yourself a pat on the back when you complete a task. It’s the least you can do for yourself, because no one else will do it for you.
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