If you’re crushing on a guy, there are some solid reasons to make the first move instead of waiting around for him to do so. You can slip him your number, ask him out, or simply say how sexy he is. If he’s not interested, find a new guy that will appreciate your boldness. If you’re still jittery about putting yourself out there, here are some reasons to make the first move.
Confidence is sexy as long as it doesn’t turn into cockiness. By showing a guy you’re interested, he’ll be impressed by your boldness. If you’re worried that he’ll laugh at you for thinking you have a chance with him, then he’s not worth your time. If he’s a nice enough guy, the worst that will happen is that he’ll politely turn you down. Who knows, he just might have a cute friend that’s perfect for you!
Make things happen
A guy might have a crush on you but lacks the confidence to ask you out. By making the first move, you can cause something to happen that wouldn’t have occurred otherwise. Some men are shy or just assume that you wouldn’t want to go out with them. Others might not have considered you as an option in the beginning, but will gain interest once they know how you feel. You know what they say: honesty is the best policy.
You are a go-getter
When you make the first move, it shows that you’re capable of taking charge. What you want, you go for. Asking someone out is a compliment, so at the very least your crush will be flattered by your attention. If you’re lucky, he’ll be attracted to your determination. So go get ‘em, tiger.
You will feel good about yourself
Whether or not you get a relationship out of the deal, at least you tried. It feels great to know you were able to do something most consider quite scary. Even if your crush doesn’t appreciate your attempt, you should be proud of yourself. Putting yourself out there is nerve-racking. So give yourself a pat on the back.
Not a game player
You don’t like to wait and you don’t like to play games. You make the first move and you will also be the one to make the first call after your date. Why play the guessing game as to whether he is going to call first or you should wait a week or two before you call him. Call when you want to call and don’t play games with each other.
You get to choose
Instead of guys hitting on you and going on a date with someone you’re not really into, make the first move so you get to choose. You know your type and you know it isn’t the guy who keeps buying you drinks during your ladies’ night out. Be in control and go for the one you want.