By Damilola Faustino
Indecision is like the first sign of adolescence. Many people, youths especially, are always faced with confusion and worry over what decisions to make when in a fix, desperate for a simple solution or at least a clear head to find a solution. From what higher institution to go to; what course to study; to what girl to date; what jobs to take. All those grownup stuffs life just thrusts at us without warning. When this happens, here’s what to do – it may not give you your answer but at least, these will get you the clear head to get a solution.
Accept where you are
Perhaps the first thing you should do is to accept the feeling of indecision. Sometimes you get stuck because you are meant to be stuck. This is usually a sign that you need more clarity before you can move forward.
Take your time
A lot of the time we make a decisions on the spur of the moment because we feel like people are waiting for us to decide. We rush into saying Yes or No, and consequently we don’t always make the right choice.
Understand the problem
Sometimes we rush into a decision that we forget to fathom the problem. This causes poor error of judgement. Before you tackle the decision making process, you must always understand the problem.
Make a list of alternatives
Take a bit of time out to write down a list of your alternative courses of actions. Spend enough time on each one. Sooner rather than later, you will make your decision. If the alternatives are not favourable, stick to your initial decision.
Ask for a second opinion
Feeling really confused? Not sure you trust yourself to make the absolute right decision? Then ask a friend for advice. Don’t stop there; ask three, four or even five people.
Just accept the way things are and trust that inspiration will reach you when the time comes to make a decision. Just be patient.
Keep sight of your values
What are our values? Your values are everything you believe to be right. They guide your decisions in life, and they ensure that you always do the right thing.
Analyse the Pros and cons of all your alternatives
When you do this, it helps you to easily identify which of your decisions will have a better effect on you and your current situation.