Everyone fails. Yes, everyone. If someone claims to have never failed they’re either lying or have never tried very hard. Before you can bask in the euphoria of success you’ve got to hit some pretty low lows and get right back up and do it again. Not everybody can get back.
Adopting an attitude of “realistic optimism” can boost happiness and resilience. In other words: you can ditch the rose-coloured glasses and the doomsday scenario for something in between. And when Plan A doesn’t work, remember that there are 26 letters in the alphabet.
Notice and appreciate the little things
When you’re in the depths of despair it’s hard to appreciate how far you’ve come to get there. But when you stop to appreciate the small wins along the way it becomes more about the journey, not just the destination.
Ask for help from your friends
The more robust your support system, the quicker and easier it is to bounce back from life’s inevitable setbacks. Plus you are the company you keep, so surrounding yourself with positive role models is a great way to boost your own vibe.
Believe it or not, there are lots of benefits to failure. In fact, failure can actually be the most valuable learning opportunity out there! But not if you don’t take the time to examine the experience in-depth. As painful as it may be, you’ll be doing yourself a huge favour when you seek to understand why you failed and what you can do differently next time to avoid a similar outcome.
Baby steps. Just a little step forward on the very day when you’ve felt smacked around by life can help you recommit and move through the pain of rejection. When your proposal is turned down, make the suggested improvements, then send it out to another company. When the promotion goes to someone else, sign up for a class that gives you an added skill.
By Damilola Faustino