A relationship is supposed to be about two people. But sometimes there’s just that one person who always tags along and makes the number three. We are not accusing your boo of cheating o, but sometimes there is that one girl in the form of ‘bestie’, an ex or even a random friend who is always all up in your relationship.
The problem is made even more complicated when the girl/boy in question has been in your partner’s life longer than you, making their presence almost more legit than yours. They always snuggle too close to bae in pictures and on baes birthday they show up with the most impressive gift making yours look like a joke. We’re not trying to say your partner shouldn’t have friends of the opposite sex-but when you can sense that a friend is constantly trying to cross boundaries then said friend has gats to go. Here’s some ways to get rid of your third wheel:
-The first decent and proper thing for you is to talk to your partner and make him see clear reasons why you think this ‘friend’ is up to no good. Your boyfriend may not want to stop being friends with this girl because he probably isn’t seeing what you’re seeing. Making him understand calmly without turning it into a fight or sounding like a possessive lunatic is what might work best.
-Straight up tell this ‘friend’ to give you and your partner some space if you think she’s becoming a serious pain in the ass and you’re so over it. You may have to discuss with your partner before lashing out to make sure it is a uniformed decision. That’s the only way to avoid drama when ‘friend’ inevitable runs back to report to bae.
-Offer to help her get ‘friend’ a partner of their own but in a way that makes the real message you’re passing across very clear . Let them know in a subtle manner that ‘Hey, I know this single guy/girl that would be perfect for you.’ really means ‘STAY AWAY FROM BAE.’
-Make them your ally. This is pretty much you waving the white flag. Offer to hang out more often, get to know them better and you’ll be amazed at what you might find out. When you become friends, chances are that you might begin to see what it is your partner sees in them and change your perception. Maybe all three of you can live together in perfect harmony… Or maybe you’ll realise that you were right and the person is awful. In which case, revert back to the steps above!
Written by Treasure Asanammy