By Damilola Faustino
Not everyone likes to flirt or pick up women at a bar. But since all sorts of things happen and you meet different kinds of people, you may likely be interested in approaching a woman at a party. If you want to hit the right buttons, here’s how to pull this off:
Do not stare from across the room. Little glances and quick smiles work much better, while blatant staring is just very uncomfortable.
Buy her a drink
You should ask the bartender what the girl is drinking and send that. When in doubt, a glass of a nice drink is not bad. Do not forget to buy her friends drinks too if they are right next to her.
Say hello, introduce yourself, and have a normal conversation. It’s amazing how far being normal can take you.
Don’t expect anything in exchange for that drink
Wait for a response. Guys nowadays think that buying the drink gives you permission to talk to and even harass that person. You should always think of buying the drink as a selfless gesture. It deserves no more than a ‘thank you’ if accepted.
Ask the bartender to introduce you
You don’t really know if the lady is having a bad day and just wants to be alone, or is having a great day and is hunting. The bartender may be in a better place to introduce you. It will be easier to break the ice.
Be careful with compliments
If your compliments are insincere, it may be instantly a turnoff and ruin your chances of getting to know her.
Do not expect too much
Since you are talking to her for the first time, you should not expect too much so that you won’t be disappointed. If she shows some interest in you, ensure you collect her number and continue the conversation afterwards.
Now go and get yourself a date!