By Damilola Faustino
Being single isn’t often something we plan. It’s usually thrust upon us, sometimes without warning. Perhaps you were still making plans for the future with your partner when they told you it was all over. Or perhaps you’ve been single for what you consider to be way too long already. You want to get back on the dating scene but, as yet, you haven’t found a match. Before you rush too quickly into another bad relationship, here are lessons everyone who is single needs know:
If you cannot bring yourself to be happy while you are single, you will struggle to find happiness in another relationship. Don’t allow yourself to be overwhelmed by negativity during this time. Be happy for others and let positive energy flood into your life.
Analyse your mistakes
When we take a timeout from anything, we should use it to analyse where we went wrong. If you’re newly single, use this time to reflect on your past relationships. Ask yourself why they ended the way they did. Was there something you could have done differently? Could you have been more flexible, perhaps? This kind of self-examination can be difficult, but it needs to be done if we’re to make a better go of our future relationships.
You absolutely must learn to love yourself when you are single. If you can’t learn to love yourself, you will find it difficult to meet a loving partner. When you give love, even to yourself, you surround yourself with that love. You create an aura. And people see it. They see it and they’re drawn to it.
Believe things happen for a reason
You have been broken up with when you didn’t want it to happen. However, as you look back on the big moments in our lives, you realise that things truly do happen for a reason. As one door closes, another one opens. While being single might not feel so grand right now, remember that this is just another step on your journey through life. It’s preparation for yet another one.
Life isn’t over
How many of us suffer a bad break up and declare that life is over? It isn’t. This is just the beginning of a new chapter of your life.
Move on from the past
One of the problems of being single is that it gives us time – often too much time – to dwell on the past. We are consumed by past errors and mistakes; wrong choices and bad decisions. It’s much better to use your time-out from the dating scene to lick your wounds and move on from the past.
Rushing into another relationship for the sake of being in a relationship is a bad idea. Be prepared to wait. Take your time. This will ensure you are not attached to some loser when the real lover come around.