Written By Damilola Faustino
Many people stress and worry about their relationships for no particular reason. They read meanings to every action taken by their bae and they are always suspicious to the point that their lovers feel that they are not loved. This is what stressing and worrying over your relationship does. This said, if you are always worried about your love life, these tips should help bring relief:
Realise that stressing gets you nowhere
The first thing you need to know about your relationship is that stressing will only raise your blood pressure as it serves no purpose. It only causes serious and avoidable problems in the relationship.
See a relationship for what it is
The misconception about relationships is that some people think it is there to serve you and give you happiness and self-esteem. It is not there to make you feel good about life and about yourself. This is not to say a relationship can’t do these things, it’s just that these aren’t the foundations of a healthy relationship. It should be an experience to be had and shared. It is about discovering how compatible you are with someone else.
Set a stress-deadline
A mistake we make is stressing over something that really turns out to be absolutely nothing. For example, You start seeing a new guy and things are going great. You talk regularly, go on fun dates, it seems to be going really well. But then you don’t hear from him for a day or two and immediately you hit the panic button. No, it may be that they are busy. Try to stay calm and train your mind to prevent it from wandering. In addition, set a deadline to stop worrying and immediately the deadline arrives, suspend your worries.
Wanting a relationship to be something other than what it never turns out well. In practice, you should just accept the relationship for what it is. The fact is, the people who are most successful with relationships are people who have fun with relationships. It doesn’t feel like work; it’s not a struggle.
Stop attaching to what things mean
There are certain things you may have been told about your relationships that you may have accepted. For example, some people perceive being single as something to be pitied, and being in a relationship is something to be proud. As a result, some persons measure their relevance by their relationship status. They get so attached to the point that if a guy leaves, it means they are unworthy or they were not good enough. Forget all this, focus on how to become a better person and the right person will come.