How long should sex last? Well, as long as you want it to, I guess. However, don’t base your metrics or KPIs on what you see in porn or in 365. Our views on this have become skewed based on the access and frequency at which we consume sexual content. With these unrealistic standards, people have become quick to judge themselves and their partners’ performance.
According to the Global Sex Survey, which was carried out on 29,000 sexually active adults, if your sessions are satisfying, then there is no specific time limit that suits everyone. It’s a very personal thing. So if 4 minutes of penetration gets you and your partner there, then ride on. (No pun intended, but you see what I did there.)
The key message here, in trying to determine how long sex should last is that you need to stop comparing yourself to other people or couples you know. You should also go a step further and not compare the physical aspect of your present relationship to any of your previous relationships. It’s unfair to both you and your partner. If the duration of your sessions is not satisfying, then have an open and honest conversation on how to make your sessions last longer and what you would like more of.
So remember, comparison is the thief of joy…or in this case, pleasure.