So, you’ve been ghosted, what do you do?
You might be considering texting the person who ghosted you in order to try to get an explanation as to why he/she just suddenly disappeared, or simply to express your feelings of anger or sadness so that the person is aware of how much they’ve hurt you.
Figuring out how to respond when you’ve been ghosted can be difficult. You basically have two main options: reach out or don’t say anything.
Responding to someone who ghosted you by not saying anything can be a time to really think about if you even want to be with someone who doesn’t even respect you enough to send you a simple text. In a healthy relationship/friendship, people communicate.
Someone who ghosted is demonstrating an inability or unwillingness to handle conflict or uncomfortable feelings. Instead of being honest about why they no longer want to see you, they took the coward’s way out and ceased communication. Ask yourself, do you really want to have a relationship with such a person?
Your other option is to swallow your pride and reach out again (A.K.A double text). With this option you have to prepare for the worst. The thing is, trying to tell someone via text that they have let you down in some way is a bit tricky, because there’s a high chance that you might not get a reply, and this would only make you feel worse. Whether you decide to call or text, do not let your emotions get the best of you because the goal is to get closure on why they ghosted.
Why do you want a response?
It’s simply because you want to find out what you did wrong or how they could treat you that way. It is really difficult to figure out what’s going on inside the mind of the person who ghosted, and you may not want to spend time figuring it out. DON’T STALK THEM! It may be difficult, but don’t do it. Don’t check their social media platforms every hour, don’t sub them on Twitter or Instagram stories, don’t do anything. Give your brain the time and space it needs to clear out and deal with what happened.
Unfortunately, the reality is that there may be absolutely no way to get someone who ghosted you to respond. They ghosted because they didn’t know how to maturely communicate that they wanted the relationship to end. It’s unlikely anything you say or do will elicit a response, and it’s not worth any more of your time.If none of your attempts to reach out to them work, delete their number and rest assured that they weren’t the person for you.
By: Dammy Eneli