No matter what you do and how well you do it, there will always be someone there to rain on your parade, and these people are called ‘Haters’. They just don’t like it when you’re happy or progressing. They are jealous of your success, but deny it and express negativity toward you and your accomplishments. They look for the smallest mistake or hiccup, then attack, never acknowledging any of the positives. They’re critical of everything, envious of you, and unhappy with themselves to say the least. Below are effective ways to deal with such people:
It’s a lot easier said than done, but it’s one of the sure ways to deal with haters. You can’t always pay attention to the foolishness people say about you. If you think too much about it, you might find yourself believing the negative things haters say about you. When haters hate, and what they say is neither constructive criticism nor positive feedback, it has no value to your life. What’s the point in getting all bent out of shape by something someone said that you can’t even do anything about? Haters say things that will do nothing but ruin your day, so with that heads up, be prepared to ignore!
Do not take them seriously
Sometimes you might have trouble distinguishing constructive criticism and pure hater-ation, because there might be a glimmer of truth in their statement. If this is the case, listen to what they have to say, but don’t take it to heart. If you think you can improve based off of their feedback, great! Just don’t take the negative emotions connected to their statement to heart. Consider the words, and if they’re unworthy, ignore it.
When a hater hates, they’re looking for a response, otherwise, they wouldn’t have made their feelings known. If you retaliate, you’re giving them what they want, and they don’t deserve your time and energy. Don’t try to think of a witty comeback to embarrass them. In the end, haters always manage to embarrass themselves without any help. Responding with nasty words will only bring you down to their level, and that’s not good.
If a hater approaches you with cursing, negativity, and unnecessary criticism looking for you to explain yourself, don’t! You don’t owe them anything! Don’t justify, explain, apologize, or anything of the sort! If they want you to hear them, they need to approach you correctly, sensibly, and respectfully. Never submit to disrespect and nastiness! Hold on to your self-respect and require others to treat you with value and esteem.
Do not try to please everyone
Whatever you do, someone will hate it. Choose left, people get mad. Choose right, people still get mad. Don’t try to appease haters by trying to fit everyone’s preferences; you’ll end up with more people hating you than you’d have just by being yourself. Not everyone will like you, and the quicker you accept that the quicker you’ll be on the road to accomplish more! When you’re walking on eggshells trying to please everyone, it’s impossible to be the best you can be! Forget that! Be you and love it!
Haters hate because they are jealous of you and your success. No one likes to be disparaged and put down, but if you are, you know that you’re doing something right. Thoughtfully thank your haters, because if it weren’t for them, you wouldn’t know how successful you are.