Frustration comes in various forms, but it is generally not a pleasant feeling. The problem with frustration is that it can cripple in on anyone, but it can be hard to pinpoint exactly where it comes from. What is frustration really? If we ask the dictionary, it tells us it’s the feeling of being upset or annoyed as a result of being unable to change or achieve something. The reason behind your frustration can be complicated, but the most important thing is for you to get right back on track:
Make your failure a lesson
Failure has a way of shifting our mentality to a sense of lack. It’s normal to get frustrated by failure. We’re often hit by one failure after another, which understandably leads to frustration. Instead of seeing it as a failure, you should learn from it. By changing your perspective on failure, you’ll be able to turn an obstacle into an opportunity. A failure can go from frustration into stronger willpower, but it all starts by seeing it as the beginning instead of the end.
Focus on today
These days, anxiety is one of the most common mental health disturbances experienced by youth. While anxiety can’t be explained or simplified by one thing, it’s been known that the pressure on creating the right future and the perfect life has put new and bigger pressure on the next generation. While it’s important to create and plan a future, you shouldn’t let the frustration of not knowing what’s ahead of you destroy your mood.
Stop comparing yourself to others
We live in a competitive world, which isn’t exactly breaking news, but after the rise of social media, we’ve added fuel to the fire. Twenty years ago, we would look at our neighbour’s new car or look at their picket fence and compare it to our own. Today, we compare ourselves to celebrities, old classmates and strangers on social media. The best thing is for you to take a break on social media and stop comparing yourself with others.
Break free from your rut
The problem with being stuck in a rut is that almost everyone goes through it, but it’s hard to pinpoint where our frustration comes from this one. It doesn’t really matter what kind of life you’re living. In the end, we all get bored by doing the same thing over and over again. It can be tricky because you can be perfectly happy with your life, but still, feel like you’re stuck in a rut. Try doing something that you always wanted to do but feel like you couldn’t, because the reality of it is — you can.
Appreciate what you have
Most humans are programmed to always look for improvement — how can we improve our relationship, work and ourselves? Sometimes, we get so focused on what we’re missing that we lose sight of what we have. It’s okay to strive for more and allow the emotion of frustration to hit you, but let it be a quick reaction rather than a state of mind. It’s easy to lament on what you want, but take a look at what you have for a second instead. You’re most likely to find at least one thing in your life that you appreciate. Focus on the good and let the feeling of appreciation in.
Regain power if you’re feeling powerless
We enjoy being in control, but there is always something you can’t control. It could be the weather, someone at work, a friend of ours; which leads us to feel powerless. It would be great (and easy) if you could just remove yourself from the situation that makes you feel powerless; unfortunately, that’s not always an option. The cold hard truth is we can’t control everything. The good news is we do have the power to control some stuff. Try to regain power in another aspect of your life, which you’re actually able to have a say in.
By Damilola Faustino