What do you at an event where you don’t know anyone? Maybe you’re attending a party where you only know the host. Or perhaps you go to a party with a friend, but he/she disappears into the crowd as soon as you get there, leaving you standing by yourself. Whichever one it is, going to an event where you don’t know anyone can be very scary. You stand there awkwardly, unsure of how or who to start talking to and feeling like you stick out like a sore thumb. But don’t be worried, because I’ve come with ways you can talk to people at an event where you don’t know anyone:
Fake it ’til you make it
Even though you probably feel quite tense and nervous at the event, try to act the opposite. When you exude comfort and confidence, you’ll seem more warm, friendly, and approachable. You’ll act less awkward. For the first few minutes of a difficult mingling experience, what you project is more important than what you may be feeling.
Talk with some fellow “outsiders” at the event first
The easiest people to start talking to at an event are those who feel as lost as you do. You can find them by looking for folks who are dressed a little inappropriately for the event, standing tentatively by themselves or in a pair, wandering around aimlessly looking at the pictures on the wall, or just staring blankly around the room like you are.
Look for an “open” vs. “closed” group of people at the event
When people are standing close together, leaning into each other, and engrossed in a conversation, consider that group to be wearing a “closed” sign. Such a circle will be physically hard to enter because of the lack of space between participants. Look for an “open” group at the event instead. Here the participants are gathered more loosely. The talk seems more light, and the participants may already be looking around the room for other conversation opportunities.
Pick a large vs. small group of people
Small groups of two or three people are the hardest kind to enter. Your chances of creating an unwanted and awkward interruption are high. Entering a larger circle of people at an event is easier. For the simple reason that it’s less conspicuous and gives you more options. Even though your entrance will be less obvious, there’s likely to be at least one person who will notice you, and initiate conversation.
By: Dammy Eneli