By Damilola Faustino
We all find ourselves in awkward conversations from time to time and we n up just starring at the person – blank. You don’t have to be blank anymore. Here’s how to handle those awkward conversation:
Don’t go in thinking the worst
Approaching a difficult conversation with a negative attitude can lead people to avoid an important discussion. Here, you may be exaggerating how bad the conversation is going to be. So, do not think about the worst.
Avoid making “you” statements
The moment you use words like ‘you did or said this’ or ‘you are this,’ the person automatically becomes defensive. You can just describe the situation and how it affected the relationship without putting in you. When you put the ‘you’ in, it just makes people defensive because they are being associated with the behaviour or situation.
You need to be able to empathize. You need to be able to see the issue from the other person’s point of view. But most times, people tend to think when they are in uncomfortable situations that they know that they’re the good guy. Showing openness by nodding or saying “uh huh” or “I hear you” while listening can show you’re interested in hearing the other person’s point of view.
Realise you’re probably not going to change someone’s beliefs
Usually, when things get really heated it’s because you’re talking about people’s belief systems, the way they choose to lead their lives and the way they think on a regular basis, and it’s going to be very hard to change that. So, remember that no matter the efforts you make, it will be near impossible to change someone else’s beliefs. Choosing to listen but not agree is also perfectly fine.
Know when to walk away from the discussion
Knowing when to walk from a conversation at the appropriate time is very important. You could go the route of just listen to them and get their perspective and walk away from the conversation. Or you could shut down the conversation and move on to a different topic, and that’s totally appropriate too. However, ensure that you do not make it too obvious that you want to walk away from the conversation.
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