Sister Bunmi here! I have to admit to you guys that I am feeling kind of special today. I went to the Accelerate office and they showed me all the mails they got after my first article. My head started to swell but then I had a look at some of the questions sent in by the Accelerate audience and… well. I guess times really are hard out there. But sha, let’s just get right to the matter.
Dear Sister Bunmi,
I would like to remain anonymous like you so call me Chikodili. I have been with this man for 6 months and he is wonderful. He cares for me and makes me laugh and is also a very fine boy. But the problem is that now I can’t kiss him.
His breath is quite bad and then he now smokes on top. So when I want to kiss him I always make it quick and then move on to change the topic or something. I have even started chewing gum like a secondary school girl so I can offer him some without making him feel bad.
I wanted to tell him but I just know it will cause serious tension between us and besides that we are really happy.
Please help abeg!
I see how you used the name I didn’t want to use before. But ah ah, why you like to suffer yourself? When fine boi full street. So before you start stressing yourself, think am. You wan die on top this guy matter?
Ok, no shaking, if you feel this guy na the guy then trust me you are not the only one in this situation. So fear not, as there are steps you can take to get back to kissing without holding your breath.
First off, we have to take into consideration the fact that there is a thing called “halitosis”. This is an ailment when a person gives off an unpleasant odor from the mouth, (Usually referred to as bad breath). Halitosis can be caused by eating certain foods, poor oral hygiene, alcohol or tobacco use, dry mouth, or by certain chronic medical conditions. So we can see that his smoking is not going to help but it is fair to say that if he has been smoking for a long time, expecting him to quit just like that is looking for trouble.
Take the time to find out if his oral hygiene game is strong, does he brush twice a day? Does he use mouth wash? And the most important is, does he floss? He may brush morning and night, but if no mouth wash is used germs etc always find somewhere to settle and breed. And then flossing is also key, as like I mentioned germs sure love to hide within the crevices.
So here is what I would do. Buy him a gift basket, fill it with his favourite snacks, crisps, sweets, cookies, etc (the more pungent the smell of the snacks the better, so cheese balls would be great) and then also put in a brand new medium strength toothbrush, toothpaste with fluoride, mouth wash and floss.
The key to the success of this ploy is that there has to be a reason for the gift. Did they do something great at work or school, is it a 5 month anniversary, did you miss their recent birthday? Then the next step is to emphasize the importance you place on their teeth, so they should enjoy the snacks but you don’t want them at the dentist so you got them the other stuff.
Follow ups are important, tell them you got the floss and you like the minty taste, but it was weird at first but now you love your fresh breath.
It is a tricky situation but handle it with care and if he gets defensive and spots your game, then don’t own up to it with vex, just keep at it that you wanted to see him smile at the snacks and what’s wrong with caring about his hygiene, after all you’re the one got him the sweets.
And then with any luck you would be back to your smooch sessions within a few days.
So there you have it. If you guys have other solutions, tweet them, write on our Facebook or Instagram page and use the hashtag #letsaccelerate so we can find them and share them with the world.
Thanks again Chikodili and till next time this is Sister Bunmi signing out!