My Name is…. Well, I’m not sure how you will all take this if you knew who I really was, but let’s just say my name is Francesca. Urm, you know what, let’s change that. Call me Chikodili…. Actually, this is the last one. Just call me Sister Bunmi.
So now that that’s out of the way, let’s get to why I am here. All my life people always seem to come to me for advice. I don’t know why but I have always been the go to person. When I was 11 I remember one of my aunties was seriously vexed, and as she drove me to do my hair or something she started just talking about how one guy she liked was doing anyhow. Like he wouldn’t call and when they were around other people he would ask like they were just friends.
I knew she wasn’t really talking to me but that’s how I went and opened my mouth and said “If he isn’t behaving himself, why don’t you just give him a time out?” So before I go on, let me explain. My mum was an avid fan of the saying “spare the rod and spoil the child”, but on the other hand, my dad treated me like a precious gem. So when it came time for him to punish me, he would give me a time out. I would have to sit on a small chair in the corner of the parlour, face the wall and not speak to anyone for 10 – 30 mins depending on how bad I was.
So that’s where my innocent suggestion came from. He was being naughty, so just give him a time out. It was that simple for my young mind and my aunts reaction is what made me keep that mind set till now. She laughed at first, then was silent with a smile for the rest of the trip. I just decided to keep quite myself and on the way home she turned to me and said I was right. She was going to give him one heck of a time out.
It was only when I got older that I found out she had taken my advice, she gave him the cold shoulder and with time he realized how much he missed her and started putting in the work to keep her around. Now they are married with kids and well I’m going to be the god mother of their kid once she finishes her 9 months service in the womb.
We all know giving advice is not usually that simple or that things don’t always work out that easily but here I am, with lots of positive stories like this in my past and now I am here for you.
Just send your questions to me at [email protected] and I will do my best to help whatever the situation.