Often in life, things don’t always go as we planned or fantasized it to be. A once loving marriage can turn sour. A promising career go down a slippery slope. Letting go and moving on is never, ever an easy task especially when a huge amount of time, resources and even emotions have been invested. But it must be done. Here are a few tips on how:
-The first crucial step when deciding to move on is coming to terms with the fact that what has happened has already happened. There is little or nothing you can do about the situation as it is.
-Allow yourself to grieve properly. Shut down for a week if you have to, cry all you want, vent out your emotions writing in a journal, talking to a friend; whatever you need.
-Stop putting blame on yourself or others. We get that you or some other person is responsible for the pain that you’re going through but being stuck dishing out blame will leave you an embittered person.
-Live in the present. Keeping your mind focused in the present affords you less time to think about the past. Sure, you’ll have memories of the past crawling back every once in a while but rather than shutting it out, acknowledge them for a brief moment and afterwards gently shift your thoughts to the present.
-Forgive truly. Forgetting may be hard or almost an impossible task to do but forgiving doesn’t have to be difficult. Forgiving yourself or others in whatever role they played to cause you hurt is the opening gateway to the happiness you truly deserve.
-Your relationships, career and life in general should not be hinged on your pain. Nobody says it is going to be easy but you can only make it if try right. Make the decision to move on today.
Written by Treasure Asanammy
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