By Damilola Faustino
Remember when Banky W and Adesua Etomi took the world by surprise when they suddenly announced their engagement? Yeah that was amazing and you can see how well their relationship has worked out so far. We are not saying everyone has to be Banky and Adesua, but sharing everything about your relationship can create problems in your relationship and amongst your friends that you never anticipated. We are going to share things you should tell your journal about your partner rather than your friends. And at the same time, we will tell you why they’re important to keep between you and your partner.
This is the opposite of bragging and it can be as equally damaging. First of all, it can give your friends a healthy dislike for your mate. When someone puts a ring on it, you’ll be dealing with all kinds of backlash from people who think you’re making a mistake. After all, your partner just can’t do anything right. How can they be the one for you? If you’re going to share with your friends, make sure you’re humble enough to point out a real picture of your significant other.
He cheated On me
If you’re trying to work the relationship out, it’s not a good idea to share that you’ve been cheated on. Why? Because your friends and family love you too much to let that stand. They might always hold a grudge against your guy, even if you’ve decided to forgive. If the relationship is over, then, of course, feel free to shout it to the rooftops that he did you wrong.
Sharing money problems can be disrespectful to your partner. And you never know when someone you’ve told will let the cat out of the bag, offering to pay, making an awkward situation. Men are especially sensitive about money, so be respectful if he’s going through a budget-conscious time. It’s okay to tell your friends you’re staying in for a movie night without telling them why. You’d probably hope for the same discretion if the tables were turned, too.
It’s understandable, especially in the beginning, that you want to feel (and make your friends feel) as though you’ve made a real catch. But when the inevitable problems come down the pike, later on, you could end up with undue feelings of guilt and embarrassment because of your previous bragging. It may keep you in the relationship longer than you should be.
Intimate Bedroom Details
Whether good or bad, this can break your intimacy with your partner, create insecurity if they find out you’ve spilled the beans and also foster unfair judgments from your friends that lead you to poor decision making later on.
Name calling and gossiping
When you’re upset, you can lose your cool. You can take it back to the schoolyard with names that make us feel empowered for about three seconds. And then it’s out, and you’ve gone and made your friend think you’re dating a total nitwit. Even after the fight is over.
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