It’s quite difficult to explain the particular reasons why a person will cheat. You can look into someone’s past, their career choice or even the length of their ring finger to clue you in. But the reality is, it’s pretty impossible to decipher who’s going to be a cheater and who’s going to remain faithful. If you are concerned about infidelity though, here are a few red flags to look out for:
One of the most surprising things that can lead partners to cheat is happiness and stability. When there are chaos and instability in a relationship, it may arguably lead someone to cheat.
They are hitting the milestone birthdays
Milestones birthdays are those that mark a big birthday year such as 30th birthdays, 40th birthdays, 50th birthdays etc. When someone hits a milestone birthday, they are more likely to cheat on the person they’re faithful to. Apparently, these transition years make people question their lives and what’s going to happen in the next decade. To help you and your partner be faithful to one another, it’s important to just be committed to the relationship.
Their partner is making more money
Money is important in every relationship and it is the number one reason that leads to the breakdown of relationships. Although having open communication with your partner about your financial situation is super important, it’s equally important to have a partner who supports you in all that you do. If your partner is going through a rough time, you should also be encouraging and give them space to figure it out if they need it. Unfortunately, your partner may cheat regardless of what you do. As long as you’ve stayed encouraging and supportive, you’ve done your part.
Their partner always questions their loyalty
Trust is important to have if you want your relationship to work. If you’ve been cheated on in the past, it’s not uncommon to worry about infidelity in your current relationship. But that can actually backfire. If you start questioning them about whether or not they are cheating, confronting someone with no proof will make them uncomfortable and put them on the defensive. Once you start doing that, your partner may decide to cheat after all, simply because you are treating them as if they were cheating.
They have lost themselves in the relationship
It’s so easy to get wrapped up in being in a relationship that you somehow lose your sense of self along the way. When someone feels like they don’t know who they are anymore because they’ve been so devoted to their partner and their needs, cheating can be the way they look to escape.
The right circumstances
Lovers are equally liable to cheat, given the proper set of circumstances. You can be the most “perfect” partner you can be and your partner might still cheat. But it’s one thing to fantasize about cheating, and it’s another to actually do it. A typically loyal partner would probably have to undergo some intense experiences in order to physically cheat on their partner.
By Damilola Faustino