It’s finally Friday! After a week of annoying bosses, corporate wear, morning traffic and mediocre lunches we finally have a few days to just sit back, relax and have a good time. And, as we’re in Lagos, a good time often means going out and turning all the way up. The problem is, because it’s Lagos, the options are endless. Which means, if you don’t have some boundaries, you’ll end up turning up this weekend. And the one after that. And after that. And even after that. And chances are, your body/bank account/family aren’t impressed.
A key part of making sure you don’t over do it is your circle. If your friends are constantly out, then you’re constantly out. And sometimes, they’re not even your friends. That one guy you never speak to except on Friday evenings when you get that ‘What U Up 2?’ text at 6pm is most likely not your friend. Sometimes, you have to assess if your friends are helping you or hurting you. And here’s how:
–Set limits: Setting limits involves creating certain behavioral rules and vehemently sticking to them. If you’re planning a night out with the boys decide on how much your budget is and stick to it and when it’s time to leave, excuse yourself and leave. No amount of coaxing or turn up should allow you disregard the rules you have set for yourself. Sure, the boys will not like this but you’re finally gaining control over your life and chances are that they’ll leave you out in the next outing due to your “boring” nature.
–Must you enter club: Having other activities that take up your spare time will help you stay away from the wrong crowd. Register for gym classes, put in more time in your religious work and services or maybe even just spend more time with your bae. That way you’ll have the perfect excuse to bail out on another weekend of ratchetness.
–Speak to someone: If you think that you don’t have the will power to avoid these people, who are practically ruining your life before your eyes, one bottle of Henny at a time, then its time you speak to a matured person who can offer useful advice. Make sure the person you speak to is someone whose personality you admire and will not be judgmental.
I’m sure most of you are just fine and have your turn-up habits perfectly under control. But just in case you don’t, we’ve told you what to do. So go forth and figure it out.
Written by Treasure Asanammy