I am Ebony and I live in Lagos. I can be likened to a charcoal. You know charcoal? I am as black as charcoal. I am no different from the behind of a pot they use in cooking party Jollof. But one thing you cannot take away from me is my beauty. I am drop-dead beautiful.
Every guy that walks past me cannot get their eyes off me. They look at me until I got out of their sight.
The Driver of an SUV parked just to gaze at me. I looked at him and I smiled as our eyes struck. In that moment, my heart began to race in anticipation, but sadly he never said a word to me and my heart broke, because the same thing has happened again.
What an irony? I am a beautiful ebony or you may say dark complexioned and confident bae but I am still single. Guys admire me but they don’t say anything. Is there something wrong with me?
I lost my self-esteem, I feel inferior and ugly. I am tired of being ignored! My parents will not even allow me rest.
My mum comes to my room every now and then to tell me to bring a man home. “But mum, I am only 21”, I say. And she looks at me with scorn and say, “you better bring a man home!”
Then at a party, I discovered the singular reason why guys have been ignoring me. I observed guys hitting only on fair ladies. What we popularly refer to as yellow in Lagos. I even saw bleached yellow.
Yeah, I give it to these girls, they were very pretty. But I can bet that I was the prettiest among all the girls and at the same time, I was the only ebony. The only charcoal. But the guys did not look at me as they were obsessed with yellow.
I could have been angry and frustrated enough to change my skin colour by maybe bleaching my skin. But no, I rose above the stigma.
From that very period, I resolved never to belittle myself because of my skin colour. To be very proud of being dark complexioned.
The colour of the skin should not even be criteria for dating a girl. Now I am very happy and I am even dating a fair skinned handsome bobo.
Black is beautiful. I have learnt that. You have to accept this. Never attempt to bleach to satisfy a shallow guy. And if you are fair, be happy! If you are black be happier!! And if you don’t worry about the colour of your skin, you are the happiest!!!