By Damilola Faustino
Yes, honesty is key to a healthy and smooth relationship, but how much information is too much? Having someone to talk to and confide in is one of the beautiful perks of being in a relationship. But if you think it’s best to maintain a keep-no-secrets level of closeness, you have to be careful. Not every detail has to be shared. In fact, it can be advantageous to keep him in the dark about certain things:
Your s*x stories
Playfully bragging about past sexual endeavors may seem harmless. But is your boyfriend really interested in your story? Not likely. It’s bound to activate his insecurity and jealousy, and it never feels good to think about your partner being with other another person.
Unserious family drama
Opening up about emotional issues you or family members have faced can bring you two closer together and it can let you know that he’s a solid, empathetic guy. But trivial drama, like your mom arguing with her sister is not information to be sharing with your boyfriend.
Talking about a random male friend
Telling him about that one make-out session with a random male friend will leave your partner paranoid that you have real feelings for the guy, no matter how many times you swear that there is nothing between you guys. Be careful.
You dislike his family
No matter how he complains about his parents, you should never say you dislike his family. Unless they’ve done something horrible or disrespected you, let him vent about his family and try not to judge. Try to imagine how you would react if the tables were turned before you respond.
Your cheating history
Telling him that you’ve cheated on a previous boyfriend will trigger his insecurities. Even if he brushes it off, he won’t ever forget. He will always be secretly wondering whether you’re going to do the same thing to him. Ultimately, it’s up to you. If you deeply regret your two-timing and don’t plan on doing it again, it’s okay to keep this skeleton under lock.
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