By Damilola Faustino
Being in a relationship is quite topsy-turvy. Sometimes you feel like absconding and at other times you feel so intimate that you never want it to end. The feelings swing like a pendulum.
One of the key reasons why some people may want to quit their relationships is fighting. Fighting every day without anyone calling a truce can be very stressful and frustrating. You wait forever for your lover to call you up to the extent that you are forced to eat your pride and make the call. This happens repeatedly.
On the flip side, you are in a relationship in which you absolutely understand each other. You rarely fight and when you fight, you already know who is at fault and both of you are readily open to resolving it. This does not mean that disagreements won’t come up but your maturity will always overshadow any differences.
This should not come as a surprise because when you start dating, fighting almost every day will be the trend. You are trying to understand each other. With time, you will run past this stage and peace will prevail.
However, this is not always the case with everyone. Some people will continue fighting even if they have been dating for a year or 5 years. It makes no difference for them. The question is why are they still fighting after years of dating? The answer is that both of them do not recognise their differences. They want their partner to behave and act like them. They want to change their partner, which is impossible.
Since they do not want to accept this difference, they will always fight and at the end, they will eventually break up. Such people do not last in their relationships.
You see, there is just a thin line between fighting and understanding. Fighting every day is normal at the beginning of your love life. You are expected to transition to understanding depending on the interaction or engagement between both partners. It may take 3 months, a year or 2 years.
So, lovers need to be very patient. If they fight, they should make attempt to resolve it as soon as possible. This will never be easy. But if you love each other you can easily pull this off. Always have it at the back of your mind that you are with someone from a completely different background, culture, and intellect.